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Monster vs Mother

The mother wound is a term that refers to the emotional pain and trauma that can arise from a difficult or dysfunctional relationship with one's mother. This can include feelings of abandonment, neglect, rejection, or invalidation, which can leave deep wounds that can affect a person's self-worth, relationships, and overall sense of well-being.

Healing the mother wound is a process of recognizing and addressing these wounds, and working to release the pain and negative beliefs that may have developed as a result. This can involve a range of therapeutic techniques, including inner child work, somatic therapy, and mindfulness practices.

One important aspect of healing the mother wound is learning to set healthy boundaries, and to cultivate a sense of self-love and self-care. This may involve developing a greater sense of compassion and understanding for one's mother, as well as learning to let go of blame, resentment, and other negative emotions.

Ultimately, healing the mother wound is a process of self-discovery and self-empowerment, which can lead to greater self-awareness, resilience, and fulfillment in all areas of life. By working through the pain and challenges of this process, individuals can cultivate a deeper sense of compassion and connection, not only with themselves but with others as well.

Healing the mother wound is a deep journey that brings up everything you believe you have been as well as everything that you can be. In this podcast I talk about the journey towards healing from empathic breaks and violence or abuse and the hands of your own mother. Far more common than you might immediately imagine, the mother wound lives on, until it is healed. Listen here on Spotify

In the journey of healing, there will be many challenges that arise. Going deeper than ever before into your emotional relationship with your own mother is important to strengthen your own relationship with yourself. The journey there will bring up much realisation. Infact, it may feel like complete and utter destruction. This is because we are so imprinted with our mother's psyche and stories in utero. We kind of need to be, in order to belong, to not be a totally foreign entity to our own mothers.

Why healing the mother wound can be so hard

Healing from the pain caused by a difficult relationship with a mother can be challenging for several reasons:

  1. Mother-child bond: The bond between a mother and child is often strong and complex, which can make it difficult to detach from negative emotions and experiences.

  2. Family dynamics: Family and ancestral dynamics can be complicated, and healing from a difficult relationship with a mother may involve confronting and unraveling longstanding patterns of behavior and communication within the family.

  3. Emotional triggers: A mother's words or actions can trigger deep-seated emotions, such as feelings of abandonment, rejection, or shame, which can be difficult to overcome.

  4. Internalized beliefs: Children often internalize messages from their parents, which can shape their beliefs and behavior well into adulthood. Unlearning these beliefs and replacing them with healthier ones can be a challenging process.

  5. Societal expectations: Societal expectations of the mother-child relationship can also make it difficult to acknowledge and address negative experiences, as it can go against cultural norms and expectations.

Healing from a narcissistic mother

Healing from a narcissistic mother can be a difficult and complex process, but it is possible with the right support and resources. Here are some steps you can take to begin the healing process:

  1. Acknowledge and validate your experiences: Recognize that the way you were treated was not your fault and that it was not normal or healthy. It can be helpful to work through it in therapy in a non-judgmental space for you to explore your experiences and emotions.

  2. Set boundaries: Establish clear and healthy boundaries with your mother, which may include limiting or ending contact if necessary. This can be difficult, but it is an important step in protecting your emotional and mental health.

  3. Practice self-care: Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally. Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment, such as hobbies, exercise, or spending time with loved ones.

  4. Seek out supportive relationships and community: Connect with people who are supportive and understanding, and who can provide you with the love and validation you may have missed out on from your mother.

  5. Work on healing the emotional wounds: This can involve a range of therapeutic techniques, including inner child work, somatic therapy, and mindfulness practices. Working with me can help you identify and address the core wounds and negative beliefs that may have developed as a result of your mother's behavior.

Remember, healing from a narcissistic mother is a process that takes time and effort, but it is possible. With the right support and resources, you can move towards a more fulfilling and healthy life.

What happens when you finally forgive your mother for what she did / didn't give you or do

Forgiveness is a complex process that can have many benefits for both the person who forgives and the person who is forgiven. When you forgive your mother, you release yourself from the emotional burden of anger, resentment, and pain that may have been weighing you down. You are able to let go of negative emotions and move forward with a greater sense of peace and freedom.

Forgiving your mother can also help to improve your relationship with her, or allow you to let go of the relationship entirely if it is not serving your well-being. It can help you to see her as a human being with flaws and imperfections, rather than the idealized image of a mother that may have been holding you back.

It can help you to see her as a human being with flaws and imperfections, rather than the idealized image of a mother that may have been holding you back.

Forgiveness can also have physical benefits, such as reducing stress and improving overall health and well-being. It can also help to improve your relationships with others, as you learn to approach situations with greater compassion and understanding.

It's important to note that forgiveness is a personal choice, and may not be the right path for everyone. It is a process that takes time and effort, and may involve seeking support from a mental health professional or loved ones. Ultimately, forgiveness can be a powerful tool for healing and personal growth.

Healing the Mother Wound Enables you to Access The Great Mother Frequency

The Great Mother energy is a concept found in many spiritual and mythological traditions, which refers to the feminine energy that is nurturing, creative, and life-giving. This energy is associated with the archetypal mother figure, who embodies the qualities of compassion, love, and protection.

In many cultures, the Great Mother is depicted as a goddess or divine feminine figure, who represents the generative power of the earth and the life force that sustains all living beings. She is often associated with fertility, abundance, and the cycles of rebirth, growth, and decay.

The Great Mother energy is also associated with the qualities of intuition, emotional intelligence, and the ability to connect with the deeper rhythms and energies of the natural world. By tapping into this energy, we can access our own innate wisdom and creativity, and connect more deeply with our own feminine nature.

Overall, the Great Mother energy is seen as a source of strength, support, and nourishment, which can help us to find balance, healing, and spiritual growth in our lives.

So the longing you once had, to be held and seen by your own mother soon dissolves into this ocean as you realise you are already it. Now, you can love your mother and allow your love to unshackle her and set you both free.

Listen to : Cosmic Womb Alchemy

Kali Ma Energy

Kali Ma is a Hindu goddess who is revered for her fierce, transformative energy. She is often depicted as a dark-skinned goddess with multiple arms, carrying weapons and a severed head, which symbolizes the ego. Kali Ma is associated with destruction, death, and transformation, but also with creation, rebirth, and liberation.

In Hindu mythology, Kali Ma is said to have emerged from the brow of the goddess Durga during a battle against the demon Raktabija. She is known for her destructive power, which she uses to slay demons and liberate souls from ignorance and attachment.

Kali Ma is also associated with the feminine power of shakti, which represents the creative energy of the universe. She is seen as a symbol of the fierce, transformative power of the divine feminine, which can destroy old patterns and beliefs and create space for new growth and healing.

Today, Kali Ma is still revered by many as a powerful and transformative goddess, who can help us to confront our fears and limitations, and awaken our own inner power and potential.

When you allow Kali energy to reach you, as in the picture to the left, you will find yourself under her feet, probably begging for your life but at the same time, seeing that you are really begging for your pain back. You will come to know Kali as a terrifying and benevolent force. When she knocks at your door, you will learn to take a deep breath, open the door, bow down and prepare for your unravelling. Here, under her feet, you will be gifted the liberation you are seeking.

"Paradise lies under the feet of mothers" the Prophet. The awareness of the Great Mother is held sacred in all religions including Islam (al-Raḥmān), Christianity (Mary - also in Islam), Buddhism (Prajnaparamita) and Hinduism (Maha Kali).

It is often interpreted by the mind as a need to serve your mother in good or kind behaviour, but that is the riddle for you to decipher. On the journey to discovering what mother is, who she is, and who you are much will be revealed. In the end, when you find her, you will be serving only yourself, in a deep and unconditional reverence, as well as all mothers in your line. You will have found the paradise within.

If you dare to embark on depth healing of the mother wound within you, you will at some point, discover a new you as you re-ignite every cell in your being and as you overflow with your own sense of inner love.

My clients who have healed the mother wound of their immediate mother have experienced the spirit of their deceased mother return to support them in a way they never experienced before. They have found a new ability to see through the pain held in the face and heart of their own mother and empathise, rather than be triggered. They have found themselves, as the new mother, healing all mothers that came in their line before them.

Are you struggling with childhood trauma and mother wounding, and finding it difficult to move forward and heal? Do you feel like the pain from your past is holding you back from living the life you truly desire?

Our self paced inner child healing program is designed specifically for those who have experienced childhood trauma and mother wounding. We understand how these experiences can impact your mental, emotional, and physical health, and our program is tailored to help you release this pain and create a new, empowering story for yourself.

Through a combination of somatic and energetic practices, our program will guide you on a journey towards self-discovery, healing, and growth. You will learn tools and techniques to heal your relationship with yourself, release negative emotions, and cultivate a sense of self-love and acceptance.

If you're ready to release the pain of your past and step into a brighter, more fulfilling future, we invite you to begin a transformative journey.


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