Signs of Wounded Masculine Energy
- Safa
- Mar 20, 2021
- 23 min read
Updated: Aug 10, 2024
If you're reading this, it's likely that you've been called to embark on the profound journey of healing your wounded masculine energy. But what exactly does that mean, and how can you recognize the signs that this work is needed?
The wounded masculine manifests in a myriad of ways - from chronic health issues, sexual dysfunction, addiction, low or distorted self esteem and spiritual disconnection.
It's a shadow that has been cast over many generations of men. The wounding is typically passed down through cultural conditioning, toxic parenting and unresolved traumatic experience such as childhood abuse, particularly sexual abuse.
As you read through the signs we're about to explore, you may find yourself confronted with deeper feelings and maybe old memories or negative belief systems. Try your best to be present and compassionate with yourself as you read through. Remember, that within the wounds lies the seed of your greatest power - your deeper purpose.
What Exactly is 'Masculine Energy'?
Masculine energy exists as a duality, a polarity that is inextricably linked to the feminine. In its purest form, I would describe masculine energy as a profound stillness, a deep well of knowing and peace that seems to reside within all living beings. It is the quality that we often feel in the presence of nature – in the unwavering presence of ancient trees, the steadfast might of mountains, the timeless awareness that permeates the natural world.
It is this mysterious sense of power, anchored and ever-present, that lies at the heart of masculine energy. And while it is commonly associated with men, this energy is not exclusive to the male experience. All living beings, regardless of gender, have the capacity to resonate with and embody this frequency.
In this exploration, however, I will be focusing specifically on the wounded masculine – the ways in which this essential energy has become distorted, suppressed, or disconnected within the male experience. For it is in the reclamation of the healthy, balanced masculine that we find the potential for profound personal and societal transformation.
Reclaiming the Wounded Masculine: Healing the Collective Burden
Healthy masculine energy feels like deep peace and grounded stillness. It's a timeless quality and inner knowing transcends the constraints of gender or physicality. It is no wonder that the Divine has so often been referred to as 'He' in the masculine form, for this energy evokes a sense of unwavering presence, an eternal holding that undergirds the very fabric of existence.
Yet, herein lies the crux of the matter – for as we have collectively moved further and further away from this sacred masculine essence, we have created systems, structures, and ways of being that actively distort and degrade this primal force. Generation after generation, men have been spiritually disconnected from their divine masculine core, thrust instead into a world that valorizes a toxic, limited version of masculinity.
The consequences of this disconnect are far-reaching and profoundly damaging. Patriarchal religious and cultural narratives have painted the masculine as inherently sinful, unworthy, or domineering. Men have been conditioned to suppress their emotions, to prioritize strength over vulnerability, and to measure their worth through external markers of success. This has led to a deeply wounded psyche, a fragmentation of the self that manifests in a myriad of unhealthy coping mechanisms and distorted self-perceptions.
As we grapple with this collective burden, it becomes clear that the journey of reclaiming the divine masculine is not merely an individual pursuit, but a necessary step in the evolution of our entire species. For when we reconnect with the true essence of this cosmic force – the stillness, the grace, the unwavering presence – we open the doorway to profound personal and societal transformation.
In the pages that follow, we will delve deeper into the most common wounds of the masculine, exploring their origins, their symptoms, and the path towards healing. It is a journey that will undoubtedly challenge us, but one that holds the promise of reclaiming our wholeness, our power, and our rightful place in the grand tapestry of existence.
How Your Childhood Trauma May Have Wounded Your Masculine Energy
Childhood is a formative time, shaping the very foundations of who we are and how we engage with the world. For men, this developmental period holds a particular significance when it comes to the cultivation and embodiment of healthy masculine energy. However, when childhood is marred by trauma, neglect, or dysfunctional familial dynamics, the delicate seeds of this divine essence can become distorted, stunted, or irreparably damaged.
The impact of childhood trauma on the masculine psyche is far-reaching and profound. When a young boy experiences abuse, abandonment, or the absence of a stable, nurturing father figure, he is robbed of the opportunity to organically connect with and embody the qualities of the healthy masculine – the grounded presence, the emotional mastery, the inner strength and clarity. Instead, he may internalize feelings of inadequacy, shame, and a deep-seated mistrust of the world around him.
As these wounded boys grow into men, they carry the scars of their past experiences, often unconsciously projecting their unresolved pain onto their relationships, careers, and spiritual/emotional lives. The very qualities that should define their masculine essence – the capacity for empathy, the willingness to be vulnerable, the ability to provide safe harbor for themselves and others – become suppressed or distorted, leading to a disastrous cascade of negative consequences. Understanding and healing these childhood wounds is therefore crucial in the journey of reclaiming the divine masculine.
5 most common unresolved traumas that block / distort your masculine energy:
Ancestral Trauma: Within your family lineage, men grappled with the profound impacts of war, poverty, addiction, abuse, neglect, and more.
In Utero / Birth Trauma: You may have experienced being an unwanted child, endured a traumatic birth, or lacked support from your father during delivery, whether physically or emotionally.
Insecure Attachment to Caregivers: Your upbringing may have been marked by an absent or emotionally unavailable father, or one who was abusive. Perhaps your mother assumed the role of both parents, leaving you without a healthy male role model to emulate.
Childhood Sexual Abuse: Tragically, you may have suffered sexual abuse during your formative years, perpetrated by a family member, teacher, or someone else you trusted.
Punishment: Your emotional expression might have been met with punishment, and you may have faced physical retribution for shedding tears or displaying vulnerability.
Top Signs of Wounded Masculine Energy
For many men, the path of healing wounded masculine energy can feel like traversing a labyrinth of stagnation and uncertainty. This is a landscape all too familiar to the clients I've worked with, who have often been grappling with these issues for years, even decades, before seeking professional support.
There remains a pervasive tendency amongst men to defer essential healing work until a major crisis strikes - the loss of a job, the breakdown of a marriage, a health scare. All too often, they rationalize their trauma and difficult emotions, perpetuating the very problems they wish to resolve. This pattern is rooted in a deep-seated lack of self-worth, an affliction that has been passed down through generations.
To break free from this cycle, it is vital that as a man, you find the right healing container - a supportive space where you can consistently show up for yourself. This may require reaching out to a skilled therapist, joining a men's group, or engaging in practices that foster self-reflection and inner work.
The journey is not an easy one; it demands courage, vulnerability, and a willingness to confront the shadows within. Yet, the rewards are immense. By traversing the labyrinth of your wounded masculine energy, you open the door to reclaiming your inherent worth, reconnecting with your authentic power, and cultivating the capacity to show up more fully in your relationships, your career, and your life.
It is a path that is not for the faint of heart, but one that holds the promise of profound personal transformation. As you navigate this terrain, remember that you are not alone. There are guides, resources, and a community of men who have walked this path before you, ready to offer their support and wisdom along the way.
The Somatic Signs of Wounded Masculine Energy
Trauma does not merely reside in the mind; it lives within the very cells and tissues of the body, manifesting in a myriad of physical symptoms and somatic expressions. For men struggling with the wounds of the masculine, these embodied signs serve as a powerful gateway into the deeper work of healing and integration.
One common somatic marker of wounded masculine energy is a sense of physical rigidity or tension, often manifesting in your shoulders, back, and jaw. This energetic armor is a kind of protective mechanism, a way for your body to shield itself from perceived threats. However, it ultimately restricts the flow of life force and the ability to truly relax into one's power.
Another telling sign may be a chronic sense of fatigue or depletion, a feeling of being perpetually drained despite outward displays of strength and productivity. This energetic exhaustion is a symptom of the disconnect between the mind and body, a disconnection that severs the man's ability to access the wellspring of vitality and rejuvenation that lies at the core of the masculine essence.
Neglected Self-Care: Do you regularly neglect the care and maintenance of your physical body and appearance?
Body Dissatisfaction: Do you harbor deep dislike or dissatisfaction with your own physical form?
Weak or Wobbly Legs: Do you often feel a sense of weakness or instability in your legs and lower body?
Chronic Fatigue: Do you frequently feel drained, exhausted, and lacking in energy for even basic activities?
Lack of Vitality: Are you unable to muster the energy required to learn new skills or take on new challenges?
Digestive Issues: Do you struggle with persistent digestive problems, such as bloating, constipation, or IBS?
Chronic Pain: Do you experience ongoing chronic pain in various areas of your physical body?
Throat Heaviness: Do you often feel a persistent sense of heaviness or constriction in your throat region?
Bodily Tension: Do you carry constant tension and pulling sensations throughout your physical form?
Sleep Disturbances: Do you suffer from insomnia, irregular sleep patterns, or poor sleep quality?
Grounding Difficulties: Do you struggle to feel grounded, centered, and present in your body?
Meditation Challenges: Are you unable to remain still and focused during meditation or introspective practices?
Chaotic Body Sensations: Do your internal body sensations often feel chaotic, threatening, or difficult to navigate?
Dissociation: Do you frequently experience a sense of disconnection or dissociation from your physical form?
Blocked Root Chakra: Does your root chakra or foundational life energy feel blocked, inaccessible, or dysfunctional?
Behavioural Signs of Wounded Masculine Energy
One common behavioral pattern associated with a wounded masculine is an unconscious need for aggression, control, or domination. This may present as a need to assert power over others, or to engage in a more subtle form of emotional or psychological manipulation, typically as a protective mechanism. At its core, this behaviour stems from a fear of authenticity, vulnerability and a desperate attempt to maintain a false sense of security.
Another telling sign is a difficulty in forming and maintaining healthy, intimate relationships. Men with wounded masculine energy may struggle to open their hearts, to express their emotions, or to truly listen and empathize with their partners. This emotional disconnection can sabotage even the most promising of connections, leaving the individual feeling isolated and alone.
Furthermore, men with unresolved masculine wounds may exhibit an unhealthy preoccupation with external markers of success, such as wealth, status, or physical prowess. This obsession with proving one's worth through outer achievements is a symptom of the profound lack of self-acceptance and inner validation that plagues the wounded masculine.
Passivity and Inaction: Do you find it difficult to take decisive action and make bold moves in your life? Wounded masculine energy can lead to a sense of paralysis, leaving you feeling stuck and unable to progress.
Struggle with Assertiveness: Are you hesitant to voice your opinions or stand up for yourself in tense situations? Wounded masculine energy can make it challenging to be assertive and confident.
Overworking to Avoid Emotions: Do you bury yourself in work as a way to distract from your emotions? This can be a coping mechanism, but it ultimately prevents you from addressing the underlying issues.
Competitive Mindset: Do you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others and engaging in a competitive, rather than collaborative, mindset? Wounded masculine energy can drive this need to prove your worth.
Addictive Behaviors: Are you turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms like substance abuse, gambling, or other addictions? These can be ways of numbing yourself from the pain of your wounded masculine energy.
Self-Harm: Are you engaging in self-harming behaviors, such as cutting or disordered eating? This can be a desperate attempt to regain control or punish yourself for perceived failures.
Reliance on Control or Dominance: Do you feel the need to maintain a tight grip on your surroundings or to dominate others? This can be a manifestation of your wounded masculine energy.
Escapist Tendencies: Do you frequently resort to excessive gaming, binge-watching, or other forms of escapism? These can be ways of avoiding difficult emotions and responsibilities.
Aggressive or Violent Outbursts: Do you find yourself lashing out in anger or resorting to violence, even in seemingly innocuous situations? Wounded masculine energy can fuel this kind of reactionary behaviour.
Avoidance of Therapy + Healing: Do you actively resist seeking help or addressing your trauma, preferring to maintain a façade of strength and self-sufficiency? Acknowledging and healing your wounded masculine energy requires vulnerability and a willingness to confront your inner demons.
Emotional Signs of Wounded Masculine Energy
The wounds of the masculine energy do not merely manifest in the physical or behavioral realms; they also find profound expression in the emotional landscape of the individual. These emotional signposts serve as a powerful gateway into the deeper work of healing and integration.
One of the most common emotional indicators of a wounded masculine is a deep-seated fear of vulnerability. Men who have been conditioned to suppress or deny their emotions may find it exceedingly difficult to open their hearts, to admit to feelings of sadness, shame, or uncertainty. This emotional numbness can create a sense of isolation and disconnection, both from oneself and from the world around them.
Alongside this fear of vulnerability, we may observe an overcompensation in the form of emotional rigidity or control. Men with unresolved masculine wounds may cling to a false sense of invulnerability, projecting an outward persona of strength and stoicism. However, this facade often masks a profound well of unexpressed grief, anger, or existential longing.
Furthermore, the wounded masculine may grapple with a pervasive sense of inadequacy or low self-worth. This deep-seated feeling of not being "enough" can manifest in a variety of ways, from chronic self-doubt to a desperate need for external validation. The individual may find it challenging to trust their own inner guidance, continuously seeking approval or affirmation from others.
These emotional signposts, while challenging to confront, offer a powerful invitation to delve deeper into the work of masculine healing. By acknowledging and integrating these suppressed feelings, men can begin to reclaim the emotional fluidity and self-acceptance that are the hallmarks of the divine masculine.
Emotional Numbness: Do you often feel emotionally numb, disconnected from your feelings? This can be a defense mechanism against the pain of your wounded masculine energy.
Emotional Shutdown: When you do experience emotions, do you quickly shut them down, unable to sit with them? This can prevent you from fully processing and healing.
Lack of Inner Peace: Do you struggle to find a sense of inner peace and contentment within yourself? Wounded masculine energy can create a constant state of turmoil.
Difficulty Expressing Emotions: Do you have trouble articulating your emotions and communicating them effectively to others? This can hinder your ability to connect and be understood.
Empathy Deficit: Despite feeling like you care deeply, do you find it difficult to truly empathize with others? Wounded masculine energy can create a barrier to emotional understanding.
Unmet Deeper Needs: Are you primarily focused on meeting your material needs, unable to identify or address your deeper emotional and psychological needs?
Vulnerability Aversion: Even when you know it's safe, do you struggle to be vulnerable and open up to others? Wounded masculine energy can drive you to maintain a façade of strength.
Emotional Facade: Do you rationalize your emotions or maintain a stoic, unemotional persona, even when you're struggling internally?
Emotional Withdrawal: Do you often withdraw emotionally or have difficulty opening up, even with those closest to you?
Repressed Rage: Do you feel a constant undercurrent of repressed rage, but struggle to find a healthy way to release it?
Dangerous Rage: Do you fear that your rage is so intense that it could potentially endanger others if fully expressed?
Anger at the World: Do you find yourself feeling increasingly angry at the world, constantly seeking new reasons to justify your resentment?
Avoidance of Needs: Do you avoid getting your emotional needs met out of a fear of rejection, often creating situations that prevent you from doing so?
Unexplained Grief: Do you carry a deep well of unexplained grief within you, unsure of its origins?
Dependence on Others: Do you rely on others, such as a partner or parent, to regulate your emotions, unable to do so yourself?
Psychological Signs of Wounded Masculine
As we peel back the layers of the wounded masculine, we uncover a complex tapestry of psychological symptoms and patterns that shed light on the profound depths of this collective challenge. These inner landscapes serve as a mirror, reflecting the deep work required to reclaim the divine essence of the masculine.
One prevalent psychological marker of wounded masculine energy is a propensity towards narcissistic tendencies. Men who have experienced emotional neglect or a lack of mirroring in their formative years may develop an inflated sense of self, coupled with a deep-seated fear of vulnerability and a compulsive need for external admiration. This maladaptive coping mechanism serves as a protective shield, concealing the underlying feelings of inadequacy and shame.
Closely related to this narcissistic dynamic is a tendency towards codependent or controlling behaviors in relationships. Wounded masculine individuals may find it challenging to establish healthy boundaries, often oscillating between a possessive need for intimacy and a fearful withdrawal. This pattern can sabotage even the most promising of connections, leaving the individual feeling isolated and starved for authentic connection.
Furthermore, the wounded masculine may grapple with persistent feelings of existential angst or a lack of purpose. Without a clear sense of inner guidance or a connection to their deeper calling, these men may find themselves adrift, searching for meaning and fulfillment in the external world. This void can lead to a range of unhealthy coping mechanisms, from workaholism to substance abuse.
Inability to Be Present: Do you find it challenging to be fully present and engaged in the moment, often lost in your thoughts or worries?
Trust Issues: Do you struggle to trust yourself and believe that others cannot be trusted either? This can create a sense of isolation and disconnection.
Indecisiveness: Are you plagued by indecision, unable to make clear choices and commitments?
Misalignment: Do you find yourself saying one thing but consistently doing the opposite, a disconnect between your words and actions?
Aversion to Vulnerability: Do you view vulnerability as a sign of weakness, something to be avoided at all costs?
Constant Need to Prove: Do you feel a constant need to prove your worth to others, seeking validation through external means?
Responsibility Avoidance: Do you struggle to take responsibility for your own behavior and its consequences?
Survival Mode: Do you often feel like you're just going through the motions, stuck in a perpetual state of survival rather than thriving?
Lack of Purpose: Do you feel a profound sense of aimlessness, lacking a clear purpose or direction in your life?
Career Stagnation: Have you been stuck in the same career path for years, unable to make meaningful progress?
Unrealized Goals: Do you find it challenging to set and achieve clear goals, repeatedly falling short of your own expectations?
Difficulty with Self-Reflection: Do you shy away from self-reflection, preferring to avoid the hard work of inner exploration?
Self-Criticism: Is your inner narrative overly critical, harshly judging yourself and your actions?
Denial of Healing: Do you stubbornly believe that you have no healing work to do, dismissing the value of personal growth?
Comfort Zone Preference: Do you prefer to remain in your comfort zone, resisting challenges that could facilitate your transformation?
Overthinking: Do you find yourself constantly overthinking, using analysis as a means to avoid uncertainty and change?
Body Image Issues: Are you uncomfortable with your body image, struggling to fully accept and appreciate your physical form?
Lack of Values: Are you unsure of what you truly stand for or what your core values are?
Desire to Control or Abuse the Feminine: Do you harbor a need to control or abuse the feminine, whether in relationships or in your overall worldview?
Addictive to Drama: Are you drawn to and addicted to the constant drama and chaos that can characterize wounded masculine energy?
Relational Signs of Wounded Masculine Energy
One of the most apparent signs of a wounded masculine energy in relationships is a tendency towards emotional distance or disconnection. Men who have been conditioned to suppress their feelings may find it exceedingly difficult to open their hearts, to express vulnerability, or to truly listen and empathize with their partners. This emotional unavailability can create a profound sense of isolation and longing within the relationship.
Alongside this emotional distance, we may observe a persistent need for control or domination. Wounded masculine individuals may struggle to relinquish power, often seeking to assert their will or impose their own agenda on their partners. This dynamic can lead to a toxic power struggle, eroding the foundation of trust and mutual respect that is essential for healthy intimacy.
Furthermore, the wounded masculine may exhibit a pattern of objectifying or devaluing women. This can manifest in overt misogynistic behaviors, or in more subtle forms of disrespect and dismissal. At its core, this dynamic stems from a profound disconnection from the sacred feminine and a deep-seated fear of the power and potency of the divine feminine.
Unfounded Insecurity: Do you constantly feel insecure in your relationships, even when there is no good reason to?
Excessive Jealousy: Are you overly jealous, struggling to trust your partner and their interactions with others?
Social Isolation: Do you isolate yourself and avoid socializing, preferring to withdraw from meaningful connections?
Lack of Vulnerable Friendships: Do you struggle to maintain deep, emotionally vulnerable friendships with other men?
Superficial Relationships: Are your friendships and social connections often fleeting and lacking in true depth?
Boundary Issues: Do you have difficulty setting clear and healthy boundaries in your relationships?
Father Hatred: Do you harbor a deep sense of hatred or resentment towards your father?
Complex Feelings Towards Mother: Do you find yourself loving but also despising your mother?
Romantic Trust Struggles: Do you have a hard time trusting yourself or your partner in romantic relationships?
Objectification of Women: Do you find yourself objectifying the women in your life, rather than viewing them as whole, complex individuals?
Betrayal and Abandonment Fears: Do you constantly fear being betrayed or abandoned by the people you care about?
Preference for Attention over Presence: Do you seek attention from women rather than their genuine presence and connection?
Constant Need for External Validation: Do you constantly seek validation, especially from the women in your life?
Emotional Expression Difficulties: Do you struggle to engage at deeper emotional levels or express yourself authentically?
Codependency: Are you deeply codependent on your partner, relying on them to regulate your emotions?
Emotional Regulation Issues: Do you struggle with emotional regulation, leaning heavily on your partner to support you?
Conflict Avoidance: Do you avoid all conflict, preferring to remain silent rather than address issues head-on?
Withdrawal During Conflict: When conflicts arise, do you tend to withdraw and disengage rather than work through them?
Inability to Leave: Do you find it impossible to leave broken or toxic relationships, even when you know it's the right thing to do?
Lack of Authentic Relating: Do you struggle to even imagine what true, authentic relating feels like?
Belief of Unlovability: Do you deeply believe, on some level, that you are unlovable?
Relationship Entrapment: Are you scared to leave your relationship, even though you know it's over and no longer serving you?
Sexual Signs of Wounded Masculine Energy
One of the most common sexual manifestations of wounded masculine energy is a tendency towards performance-oriented or goal-oriented sex. Men who have internalized the belief that their worth is tied to their sexual prowess may find themselves preoccupied with achieving orgasm or satisfying their partner, rather than being fully present and attuned to the ebb and flow of intimacy. This dynamic can ultimately lead to feelings of inadequacy, shame, and a disconnection from the sensual, embodied experience of lovemaking.
Alongside this performance-driven sexuality, we may observe a pattern of sexual objectification or the devaluation of the feminine. Wounded masculine individuals may struggle to see their partners as whole, complex beings, instead viewing them as mere objects of desire or conquest. This mindset can contribute to a lack of empathy, respect, and true intimacy within the sexual encounter.
Furthermore, the wounded masculine may grapple with issues of sexual dysfunction, such as premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, or a chronic lack of sexual desire. These physical symptoms often serve as a somatic reflection of the deeper emotional and psychological wounds that have been carried by the individual. Addressing these challenges requires a holistic approach that integrates the physical, emotional, and energetic aspects of sexuality.
Low or Absent Libido: Do you have little to no sexual desire, creating problems in your intimate relationships?
Erectile Dysfunction: Are you unable to maintain an erection sufficient for sexual intercourse?
Penetration Difficulties: Do you struggle with or feel intense shame/disgust around the act of penetration during sex?
Pornography Addiction: Are you addicted to pornography, using it as a substitute for healthy sexual expression?
Premature or Delayed Ejaculation: Do you suffer from either premature or delayed ejaculation, disrupting the sexual experience?
Need for Control: Do you feel the compulsive need to control the sexual process, rather than allowing it to flow naturally?
Avoidance of Intimacy: Do you avoid all forms of sexual contact and intimacy, preferring to remain emotionally distant?
Beliefs About "Doing It Wrong": Do you constantly worry that you are "doing something wrong" during sex?
Inability to Be Present: Are you unable to stay present and engaged during sexual encounters, constantly in your head?
Selfish Preoccupation: Are you entirely focused on either pleasing your partner or solely pursuing your own pleasure?
Dissociation: Do you dissociate during sex, feeling disconnected from your body and the experience?
Body Image Issues: Does your body hatred become triggered and amplified during sexual activity?
Anorgasmia: Are you unable to achieve orgasm, or do your orgasms feel superficial and unsatisfying?
Shame Around Arousal: Do you feel intense shame when you become sexually aroused, struggling to embrace your desires?
Attraction to Dominance: Are you only sexually attracted to partners if you can overpower and dominate them?
Desire for Degradation: Do you want to be degraded or humiliated during sex, as a means of coping with your shame?
Degradation of Others: Do you use your sexual energy to degrade, objectify, or demean others?
Stress Relief Through Sex: Do you rely on sex as a way to de-stress or avoid dealing with your emotions?
Preference for Strangers: Do you prefer to have sex with strangers rather than committed partners?
Fear of Sexual Energy: Are you fundamentally afraid of your own raw, primal sexual energy?
Inability to Maintain Relationships: Do you find it challenging to maintain healthy, long-term sexual relationships due to these issues?
Financial Signs of Wounded Masculine Energy
The wounds of the masculine energy do not exist in isolation; they also manifest in the individual's relationship with money, wealth, and financial security. These financial patterns and behaviors serve as a powerful mirror, reflecting the deeper work required to reclaim the divine essence of the masculine.
One common financial expression of wounded masculine energy is a preoccupation with accumulating wealth and material possessions as a means of validation and self-worth. Men who have experienced a lack of emotional or psychological nourishment in their formative years may unconsciously seek to fill this void through the pursuit of external markers of success. This can lead to a perpetual cycle of striving, driven by a deep-seated fear of inadequacy and a desperate need for recognition.
Alongside this obsession with financial gain, we may observe a tendency towards financial recklessness or irresponsibility. Wounded masculine individuals may struggle to exercise prudent financial management, often making impulsive decisions or engaging in risky investment strategies. This pattern can stem from a lack of self-trust, a feeling of being unworthy of financial stability, or a subconscious desire to sabotage their own success.
Furthermore, the wounded masculine may exhibit a reluctance to ask for help or support when it comes to financial matters. This independence and self-reliance, while admirable in some contexts, can become a detrimental coping mechanism when it prevents the individual from seeking guidance or collaborating with others. This isolating dynamic can ultimately hinder their financial growth and long-term financial wellbeing.
Consistent Earnings Struggles: Have you always struggled to consistently earn enough to feel financially stable?
Feeling "Poor": Do you earn good money but still perpetually feel like it's not enough, living in a state of financial scarcity?
Imposter Syndrome: The more money you make, the more you feel like a failure or imposter, unable to internalize your success.
Gambling Addiction: Do you frequently turn to gambling as a means of self-soothing and attempting to alleviate financial anxiety?
Inability to Plan Ahead: Are you unable to effectively plan your finances and provide for yourself or your family in the long-term?
Job Instability: Do you find it challenging to hold down a steady job, constantly moving from one position to the next?
Self-Worth Tied to Earnings: Is your sense of self-worth inextricably linked to the amount of money you are able to earn?
Wealth-Based Accomplishments: Do you measure your sense of accomplishment solely by the financial resources you've accumulated?
Competitive Drive: Do you constantly compete with other men, vying for status and wealth as a means of validation?
Unethical Moneymaking: Are you willing to engage in risky, criminal, or morally questionable acts in pursuit of financial gain?
Instant Money Loss: Do you find that as soon as you acquire money, you lose it just as quickly, unable to maintain financial stability?
Parental Dependence: Do you, as an adult, still rely on your parents for financial support, unable to be self-sufficient?
Failure to Provide: Do you struggle to financially provide for your children, your family, or those who depend on you?
Suspected Gold-Digging: Do you worry that your partner is with you primarily for your money, rather than for who you are as a person?
Perpetual Financial Anxiety: Do you live in a constant state of financial anxiety and insecurity, unable to find a sense of ease and abundance?
Spiritual Signs of Wounded Masculine Energy
One common spiritual sign of the wounded masculine is a tendency towards spiritual bypassing or a disconnection from the embodied, lived experience of the sacred. Men with unresolved masculine wounds may seek to escape the challenges of the physical world through a one-sided focus on mental or intellectual spirituality, neglecting the crucial integration of the emotional, sensual, and energetic aspects of their being. This disembodied spirituality can ultimately lead to a sense of disconnection and a lack of grounding in the present moment.
Alongside this spiritual detachment, we may observe a propensity towards spiritual materialism or a preoccupation with attaining higher states of consciousness as a means of ego-validation. Wounded masculine individuals may become attached to the pursuit of spiritual attainments, driven by a need to prove their worthiness or to assert their superiority over others. This dynamic can ultimately hinder their ability to surrender, to be vulnerable, and to truly integrate the transformative power of the divine.
Furthermore, the wounded masculine may struggle with a lack of trust in the natural cycles and rhythms of life, often seeking to impose their own will or to exert control over the unfolding of events. This resistance to the flow of life can manifest in a variety of ways, from an inability to accept uncertainty to a compulsive need for certainty and predictability. By embracing the inherent wisdom of the masculine energy – its grounded presence, its willingness to face challenges head-on – the individual can reclaim their rightful place within the sacred tapestry of existence.
Your heart field cannot open, or you don't even believe your heart is more than a physical organ
You have no connection to Source/God, or you only connect when you want something
Your third eye feels heavy or blocked, and you cannot see within yourself clearly
You feel a disconnect or even a hatred towards your ancestors
You feel unjustly burdened by existing on earth
You feel your life is pointless and lacks a purpose
You don't have a connection to your divine masculine energy
You hold purely materialistic over spiritual beliefs
Your energy field is entangled in a web that you can't get out of
Your legs are energetically disconnected from your body
Your heart field has lots of walls, wounds, and sharp objects within it
Your shadow has overtaken your light
You attract dark energy or entities
You actively get power from connecting to dark entities (male or female)
You refuse to surrender to your rebirth and spiritual awakening process
Spiritual bypassing has become a way of life
You idolize spiritual teachers
You engage in spiritual gaslighting
You use spiritual practices to abuse or take advantage of women
You do spiritual healing to feel a temporary high, but soon after, you feel drained and confused
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Thank you from the depths of my heart Safa." "My whole rib cage opened and expanded and my spine and body posture corrected. I had releases in my left hip and leg and my pelvis rebalanced. I felt my masculine and feminine energies rebalancing and I saw that my body was just a landscape for these universal energies. When there is balance between the masculine and feminine energy there is flow otherwise there is tension and pain points just like there have been in several parts of my body for years. Then, Jesus Christ appeared. I felt the body of Christ representing the whole of mankind. His body was connected to all of us. My hands spread out as if I was on the cross. This was important for me because of the religious background that I was indoctrinated into as a child. I heard ' Forgive them because they know not what they do. Suddenly I saw a scene from my childhood. It was a little boy holding deep ancestral burdens, parental expectations and alot of insecurity. A dark shadow had taken him over and he was alone. I realised this was my inner child, showing me how much he was holding at such a young age. I was worried but Safa helped me to heal this, and all the associated feelings. "
"All my life I felt like my masculine and feminine energies were fighting against one another in deep pain and anger. It was an exhausting internal battle that left me questioning myself, my purpose, and why my parents even had me. Thank you Safa, for assisting me in balancing the divine feminine and masculine energies within. I feel whole in my being and no longer need external validation <3 Safa's energy is so pure, safe, gentle and loving mixed with a wicked funny personality it makes you feel so held and seen."
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