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Do you need to heal the wounded masculine?

The term "wounded masculine" is a concept that refers to the negative effects of traditional gender roles and societal expectations on men's emotional well-being. It is a term used to describe men who have internalized harmful beliefs about what it means to be a man and have been socialized to suppress their emotions, deny their vulnerability, and prioritize power and control.

The wounded masculine often manifests as anger, aggression, and violence towards others, as well as self-destructive behaviors such as substance abuse and risky behavior. Men who embody the wounded masculine may struggle to form deep and meaningful relationships, express themselves emotionally, and experience authentic intimacy.

The concept of the wounded masculine is often associated with the broader movement of "healing masculinity," which seeks to redefine traditional notions of masculinity in ways that promote emotional intelligence, empathy, and healthy relationships. This movement emphasizes the importance of men learning to embrace vulnerability, cultivate healthy communication skills, and develop a greater understanding of their emotions.

There’s things that I’ve noticed big time about the current level of masculine embodiment and the wounds that men are holding that prevent them from deeply loving themselves and freeing themselves.

Here are aspects of the wounded masculine. Whether we are male, female or genderless these vibrational poles exist and play out through us. They are landscapes of frequency that influence and move us at a sub-perceptual level.

The wounded masculine

The wounded masculine seeks attention from the world (and the feminine) rather than being in presence with the world (and the feminine) because he is seeking validation for his own existence. Receiving attention is like being fed, except it never goes to the depths that he wants to be felt at.

The wounded masculine resists deep emotional expression and feeling because he believes it is his burden to bear the weight of pressure, patriarchy and undue responsibility in order to be male, because he has yet to find his true masculinity

Superficial connection with women

The wounded masculine refuses to deeply see and connect with the feminine spirit beyond the superficial physical plane and maybe tapping into the intellectual realm but at a spiritual level no, because he is terrified of being dissolved in womb and no longer being “himself.” As a result he seeks superficial connections with women focusing on physical attraction only. When men only focus on superficial connections with women, they miss out on the opportunity for deeper, more meaningful relationships. Superficial connections are typically based on physical attraction or other external factors, such as shared interests or hobbies, rather than on emotional compatibility, shared values, or mutual respect.

Men who prioritize superficial connections may struggle to develop long-term relationships, as they may be more interested in the thrill of new relationships or the pursuit of sexual gratification than in developing a deeper emotional connection. This can lead to feelings of loneliness and dissatisfaction, as well as a sense of emptiness or lack of purpose.

In addition, focusing solely on superficial connections can perpetuate harmful gender stereotypes and contribute to a culture of objectification and exploitation of women. This can lead to negative outcomes for both men and women, including increased rates of sexual assault and harassment, lower levels of emotional intimacy and satisfaction in relationships, and a lack of meaningful connection with others.

It is important for men to prioritize healthy, respectful relationships with women based on mutual trust, respect, and emotional compatibility. This requires a willingness to communicate openly, express vulnerability, and engage in self-reflection and personal growth. By prioritizing deeper connections, men can experience greater emotional fulfillment and build healthier, more satisfying relationships with women.

Money wounds that block true wealth

The wounded masculine chooses to battle with money rather than build and harmonise wealth from roots of self worth and as a result never really moves financially and feels stuck and hopeless. The reasons cited are always external and circumstantial rather than inner awareness.

Wounded men may struggle with money for a variety of reasons related to their emotional well-being and internalized beliefs about masculinity. Some possible reasons include:

  1. Lack of self-worth: Wounded men may struggle with feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem, which can manifest as difficulty in negotiating salaries, asking for raises, or taking on leadership roles at work.

  2. Impulsive spending: Men who struggle with emotional regulation or seek to cope with their emotional pain through external means may turn to impulsive spending as a way to feel better in the moment. This can lead to financial instability and difficulty in managing money over the long term.

  3. Difficulty in building and maintaining relationships: Healthy relationships are important for networking, finding mentors, and developing supportive social networks that can help men advance in their careers. Wounded men may struggle to form deep and meaningful relationships, which can limit their opportunities for professional growth.

  4. Fear of failure: Men who have internalized harmful beliefs about what it means to be a man may feel a strong pressure to succeed financially, which can lead to fear of failure and a tendency to avoid taking risks or pursuing new opportunities.

  5. Trauma or other emotional issues: Men who have experienced trauma or other emotional issues may struggle with depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges that can make it difficult to focus on work or manage money effectively.

It's important for wounded men to recognise how their emotional well-being and internalised beliefs about masculinity may be impacting their financial lives, and to seek support and resources that can help them build healthier relationships with money and achieve greater financial stability. This may include therapy, financial coaching, and other forms of professional support.

Overemphasis on material accomplishments over spiritual growth

The wounded masculine believes he has nothing to heal because he has reached a certain level of material accomplishment which is usually house wife kids and job. This means the identity goal is achieved and anything that threatens to move him from his role as all powerful provider becomes something to be resisted including his own inner growth and evolution.

The wounded masculine often focuses on material accomplishments as a way to compensate for feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, and emotional pain. Traditional gender roles and societal expectations often prioritize material success, wealth, and power as indicators of masculinity, which can lead men to feel pressure to prioritize these things above all else.

Men who embody the wounded masculine may feel a deep sense of shame or insecurity if they don't measure up to these expectations, leading them to focus obsessively on material success as a way to prove their worth and earn validation from others.

At the same time, the wounded masculine may struggle to recognize or prioritize more intangible accomplishments, such as emotional intelligence, empathy, or the ability to form deep and meaningful relationships. This can lead to a narrow, one-dimensional view of success that ignores the importance of inner growth, personal fulfillment, and other non-material factors.

Ultimately, the focus on material accomplishments can be a form of self-sabotage, as it can prevent men from recognizing and addressing the deeper emotional issues that underlie their drive for success. It's important for men to seek support and resources that can help them develop a more holistic view of success and cultivate healthy, balanced relationships with both material and non-material aspects of their lives.

Reframing Sexual Energy Distortion: Understanding and Healing the Root Causes

The wounded masculine violates his own sacred sexual energy by using it to play, to feel a thrill, to connect, to feel worthy and to validate himself. This is because the sexual energy is shallow, coming from a place of lust and greed rather than emotional heart depth and love.

The wounded masculine may distort his own sexual energy as a result of internalized beliefs about masculinity, shame, and trauma. Traditional gender roles often prioritize dominance, aggression, and sexual conquest as indicators of masculinity, which can lead men to view their sexual energy as a source of power and control. However, this view of sexuality can be harmful, both to the individual and to their partners. Men who embody the wounded masculine may struggle to connect with their partners on a deeper emotional level, viewing sex primarily as a means to satisfy their own needs rather than as an expression of intimacy and connection.

At the same time, the wounded masculine may be burdened by shame and guilt around their sexuality, which can lead to a distorted view of their own desires and impulses. This can result in a range of sexual dysfunctions, including difficulties with arousal, orgasm, and intimacy.

In addition, men who have experienced trauma or abuse may struggle to trust others and may use sexual energy as a way to numb or escape from their emotional pain. This can lead to compulsive sexual behaviors, addiction, and other forms of self-destructive behavior.

It's important for men to recognize how their internalized beliefs about masculinity and their past experiences may be impacting their sexual energy and to seek support and resources that can help them develop a healthy, balanced relationship with their sexuality. This may include therapy, meditation, mindfulness practices, and other forms of self-care.

Finding Purpose: Overcoming a Lack of Direction and Structure in Career and Life

The wounded masculine cannot propel forward in any direction long enough to feel satisfied by it. This is because his root is fragile or dissociated and he does not have the life force running through his body to create force of will in any sustainable way. As a result, he feels trapped by himself.

se of aimlessness, lack of motivation, and difficulty in making decisions or setting goals.

In addition, men who have experienced trauma or emotional pain may struggle with depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges that can make it difficult to focus on their goals or find direction in life. To overcome this, it's important for men to cultivate a deeper connection with their own authentic self, learning to identify and prioritize their own needs, desires, and values.

Overcoming Barriers to Healing: Navigating Resistance to Consistent Therapy and Addressing Childhood and Ancestral Trauma

The wounded masculine refuses to move, be moved, change, grow, surrender , heal , go within and then becomes angry with the world that it exists the way it does. He refuses to change himself and therefore lives in a world that reflects him back to himself. He refuses to leave relationships that are beyond repair because he is too fearful to connect more authentically because it is a blank unknown.

The wounded masculine may resist therapy and healing for a number of reasons, including internalized beliefs about masculinity, fear of vulnerability, shame, and a sense of hopelessness or helplessness. Men who embody the wounded masculine may have been taught that seeking help or showing vulnerability is a sign of weakness, and may therefore feel ashamed or inadequate if they are unable to solve their problems on their own.

In addition, men may fear being judged or misunderstood by others, leading them to avoid seeking support or opening up about their feelings. This can be especially true for men who have experienced trauma or emotional pain, who may struggle to trust others or feel like their experiences are not valid or important.

Furthermore, men who have internalized negative beliefs about themselves may struggle with feelings of hopelessness or helplessness, believing that their problems are insurmountable or that they are unworthy of help and support. To overcome these barriers, it's important for men to challenge their own beliefs about masculinity and vulnerability, recognizing that seeking help is a sign of strength rather than weakness.

Overcoming the Persistent Mother Wound and Breaking Free from Parental Polarization

When men unconsciously hold a mother wound, it can impact their sense of self-worth, relationships with women, and overall emotional well-being. A mother wound is a term used to describe the emotional pain and trauma that can result from a problematic or dysfunctional relationship with one's mother, such as neglect, abandonment, or abuse.

Men who have experienced a mother wound may struggle with feelings of inadequacy, abandonment, or rejection, which can impact their ability to form healthy relationships with women. They may feel a sense of longing or neediness for the love and validation they did not receive from their mother, which can lead to codependent relationships or difficulty setting boundaries.

In addition, men with a mother wound may struggle with emotional regulation and expression, as they may have learned to suppress their emotions in order to cope with the pain of their childhood experiences. This can lead to difficulty in connecting with others on an emotional level, as well as challenges in managing their own emotional reactions.

The wounded masculine cannot make peace with his mother. He is aware of the empathic break but will not go deeper than to acknowledge it was there or to understand the soul journey he is on towards the Great Mother energy. The wounded masculine therefore develops distorted relationships with his mother either to idolise her to stay safe within himself but never to learn from her or the feminine ancestral line, or to distance himself from her.

The wounded masculine cannot create easily and with a flow. When he creates he doubts and despises his own creation. It is never good enough. He therefore resides to a world of serving others rather than himself because it’s slightly less directly disappointing than having to evolve in his own creative life force.

The wounded masculine become needy when his feminine counterpart begins to step into her power. The threat of destruction is too great and as a result he distracts her from her own embodiment and focus by bringing the attention back to him. This happens in subtle ways, sometimes mockery or ridicule sometimes demanding of sex or time.

Exploring the Link between the Wounded Masculine and the Inner Child: A Path to Healing

Negative behaviours and traits associated with the wounded masculine are often rooted in unhealed emotional wounds from childhood. These wounds can be caused by experiences such as neglect, abuse, or the lack of a positive male role model.

When a male's inner child is hurt, it can lead to a sense of inadequacy, insecurity, and a lack of self-worth. This can manifest in behaviours that are harmful to oneself and others, such as acting out in anger or becoming overly aggressive.

It's important to note that the wounded masculine is not limited to males and can manifest in anyone who identifies with or exhibits negative masculine traits. Healing the wounded masculine requires a commitment to self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and self-care. By identifying and addressing the emotional wounds of the inner child, individuals can transform negative behaviours and become healthier, more balanced individuals.


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